Stepping Outside of your Comfort Zone

I think that's one of the biggest things that I struggle with a lot is like you kind of identify with a diet, especially with keto. And in my experience, like in my, when I was kind of going through it, I actually made a lot of friends in the space, going to these low carb conferences, and these keto conferences, especially as like it kind of became popular. And so that was a struggle for me kind of coming to a little bit away from that. But for a lot of the clients that I work with, and again, these are things that I went through, I think there's it, there's, it's just so psychological, there's like, a huge psychological component to it. And one of the biggest things I see is just like carb phobia, right, just being afraid of carbohydrates. And even like, we're talking about being afraid to eat a strawberry from a garden, or a sweet potato from your garden, maybe are from grocery or wherever you got it just literally been scared to eat whole food, carbs that grow from nature, right?

So I was in that boat a little bit at a certain point. And I was like, I remember just I was like, if I look at a sweet potato, I'm gonna gain weight, like that's where my mind was at. Because I was like, okay, keto is the one way like this, I feel great with this at the time, and I was like, I'm never going back to carbs. And so that was like a big psychological component. But my physical I guess, transformation in the physical way that I felt was kind of getting muddied by that psychological side of things. And so that's where I kind of came to the point and I kind of talked about this I, I lost 20 pounds prep for a photo shoot. That was I did not do that, keto, I did it lower carb, and I use keto throughout at different points. But it was not like a strict keto approach. Not saying that you can't do that keto, or anything like that. But so in the beginning, when I first got into keto, I did lose some weight through keto, right. And I was able to maintain that for a little while, especially as I stayed there for like, I stayed there for a long time. But I was at a different place in my life, I was doing different things. And so I was at that point was like, Okay, I'm never going back to carbs. But then eventually I started, like, I was writing my book, and I was in a different kind of place, I was stressed out from other factors. And so, and I was kind of overdoing it with CrossFit, for sure. And I ended up getting injured. And so I kind of gained some weight back. And I was just not in a good place. But I was still like keto, because like this is the only way.

So I kind of had to step out of my own mind, really, and just let someone else take over. And so that's when I hired my first coach for myself. And that was four years ago, four years, somewhere around there. I heard my own coach, and I basically kind of put it in his hands and I said, Hey, I, like I, I'm just psychologically I need a break from thinking about my own diet and getting, you know, trying to change all these things. And I just need some outside perspective to come in and be like, Hey, let's try this, you know, do this, and I'm going to hold you accountable to it, and we'll see what happens. And that was a game changer for me, just with personally and then also within my own ability to coach others and be the best coach that I can I think that I still have a coach to this day, it's not the same coach, but I've I've had a coach since then, for the last four years, you know, learning from different people. And, you know, that's a huge piece of it that I think a lot of people miss out on is like, asking for help and feeling okay, like feeling okay, with, you know, putting it into someone else's hands for a little bit.

And also realizing that like, just because you're putting in someone else's hands to like, you know, set a plan for you hold you accountable doesn't mean like, they're going to do the work for you necessarily. So that's something else we have to think about. It's not like, like, you still have to do the work, right? It still takes work but I think that was a huge piece of it that really, from a psychological standpoint is just thinking about if I like if I if you're listening to this and you're legitimately scared to eat a fruit or potato at some point, it's probably not okay. It's yeah, it's probably a little bit too far off the deep end there and we need to kind of reel back in and realize like, Okay, what am I actually doing right now and, and what is actually going to make me healthier versus you know, what's actually deteriorating my health from from a psychological standpoint.